Every night, after my son and my partner go to bed I have what I call mommy time. It is the time when the house is quiet and the TV remote is all mine. Sometimes I read or sew. Often times I snuggle under a blanket and catch up on a show. Whatever I am doing it is time for me.
The one pitfall to mommy time is that I stay up entirely too late. It is not uncommon for me to be up until midnight and there are days where I find my self stunned that the glowing red numbers on the clock read 1:00 AM. There are many mornings when I am tired as C rolls out of bed at 7:30, asking for a snuggle, some breakfast and time to watch his favorite show. Being his mommy is truly everything I could ever ask for, but the late night time is needed and they make premade iced coffee to get me through the sleepy mornings.
One thing I have learned in the last three and a half years is that mommy time is critical. Taking time for myself is one of the most important things I do. It can be easy as a mom to lose your identity. It is easy to become “C’s Mom” and not “K”. For a long time after he was born I did lose myself. I was consumed with feeding him, changing his diaper, doing laundry and playing with him. The list goes on, really. It was so easy to put myself on the back burner.
Even now, I don’t do much. I don’t spend a lot of time outside of the house. I spend a lot of time at home during the day, creating activities for C and I to do, which makes mommy time at night all the more important.
You can be a mom and YOU at the same time. Being a mom has become a part of my identity, sure, but there are still parts of me that need to be acknowledged.